Overcome Networking Fears: Here’s A Tried-And-True Strategy For Smoother Interactions

When engaging in initial conversations with new acquaintances, don’t be so quick to list one’s job title, education, and accomplishments. Research suggests that this approach may not be as effective as previously thought.

According to CNBC, citing a Harvard and Wharton study, students were partnered to solve brain-teasers. Some students were informed that their performance would be assessed solely based on the accuracy of their solutions. Others were judged on the impression they made.

The students had three communication options:

Saying, “Hey, can you give me any advice?”
Saying, “Hey, I hope you did well.”
Saying nothing at all.

Predictably, students evaluated based on accuracy eagerly asked for advice. However, those rated on how good of an impression they made were less than half as likely to ask for help; they were afraid they wouldn’t look competent.

Yet when students were paired with a partner that was either neutral or asking them for advice, they had a higher opinion of the advice seeker. They figured that the person who asked for their advice must be quite clever — in part because it’s flattering to be asked for help.

In other words, people tend to think: “They were smart to ask for my advice because I am smart.”

The findings align with a thesis found in the book “NEXT! The Power of Reinvention in Life and Work,” by Joanne Lipman. Discussions with social psychologists shed light on the most effective means of forging connections. Asking for advice or seeking guidance, studies show, enhance the perception of one’s intelligence.

Also Read: To Make A Real Connection, Asking ‘How Are You?’ Doesn’t Work: Here’s What Does

Here are a few important points on how to be an excellent advice seeker. 

Asking Questions. A separate research initiative conducted by Harvard delved into interactions where people were acquainting themselves with each other, including face-to-face speed dating encounters. Remarkably, participants displayed greater warmth toward individuals who posed a multitude of questions. Individuals who participated in speed-dating and asked a higher frequency of follow-up questions received more second date invitations.
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